Towards a Lesbian Lifestyle

Victorian Society had been loathed to accept a gay lifestyle; and believed it was an aberrant sexuality, which needed to be corrected or/and punished. Queen Victoria thought that the notion of a lesbian was one thing outside of the norm and preferred to assume that this explicit kind of sexuality did not exist; and should definitely not be practised. Oscar Wilde, a well known playwright of the time, was really incarcerated for sexual immorality. He referred to gay love as 'the love that dare not speak its name.(1)

In today's twenty first Century gays and lesbians have 'come out' and brazenly share and practise their love for every other. Similar sex relationships aren't particularly frowned on, and seem much less outdoors of the societal norm. Moreover the media tends to be less critical and public opinion appears much less judgmental of any such lifestyle. It may be argued that the unconventional shift in public opinion with regard to this sort of lifestyle might be attributed to some extent to the willingness of gays and lesbians to brazenly discuss their lives and feelings. The more and more well-liked 'Discuss Reveals' of the 90s have additionally been influential in encouraging others to understand that all of us have a proper to choose who we love and have a sexual relationship with.


There were and still are a multiplicity of tv and radio speak reveals which encourage open discussions on homosexual and lesbian life; and I might argue that in highlighting the subject matter it has grow to be acceptable as part of the norm. The sort of sexuality is seen as being fairly widespread place, and is now not perceived as being sexually deviant or unacceptable in modern society.

Furthermore it may be argued that stereotypes of gays and lesbians are much less archetypal and the image of the 'butch' lesbian a lot less overt. It'd actually be stated that beforehand there was a need to look totally different and so entice others of the same sex. This has altered somewhat because the media and society now settle for the lesbian lifestyle as simply one other way to love. Understanding it may be argued has given option to real acceptance of another lifestyle.

Not too long ago whereas studying an article entitled Lesbian Life - What causes homosexuality (What makes someone Gay or Lesbian)-(2) I remember considering it is almost as if it is perceived as a disease, something very undesirable and to be prevented in any respect costs. The premise of the article is to discuss whether or not there's a homosexual gene, as a possible rationalization for the variance in our sexuality. If as an illustration you will have the homosexual gene, then its inevitable that you'd have a choice for your personal sex. Primarily this illuminates the science versus religion debate. If our creator made us in order that we've got a desire for our own intercourse, then how can non secular proponents condemn us, and say it's towards biblical precepts for us to practise this lifestyle? It might be argued that this means that one's sexuality is just not innate however environmental.

The article was additionally keen to discover our socialization, as an illustration did the subject develop into homosexual or lesbian because of some disparity in the kid's upbringing; or was it attributable to some trauma skilled in childhood or as a young person. The causes, reasons or factors for someone turning into a lesbian is briefly mentioned when it comes to it being a genetic condition. It suggests that our most well-liked sexual orientations is one thing we were born with, in much the identical means as an inherited trait, like pores and skin or hair colour.

So what makes you a lesbian, I'm not an authority on the subject nor do have I a wealth of expertise on the subject. Principally, I'm speaking from the attitude of an observer, not a practitioner. On the premise of that I can only share my ideas on the matter. Personally, I consider that you're not born homosexual, nor do I feel it's inherited or in the genes so to speak. I believe that our sexuality is to a large extent based mostly on personal choice. How far are our life decisions determined by the society we stay in; by our parenting and being a product of the surroundings during which we stay? These and different questions must be given cautious consideration when discussing our sexuality; it is I imagine similar to assessing what determines our characters, persona and identity. In the end it's a private alternative we're making as a result of in spite of everything we are conscious rational human beings in a position to make our own choices and decisions.